Diet Problems with Alzheimer’s Patients

It’s often a problem to get Alzheimer’s patients to eat properly or wholesomely.  However, I did discover that some of Mother’s previous likes and dislikes were evident  even when she could no longer make herself understood verbally.

“She won’t eat her supper,” an aide remarked, who was trying to feed Mother.  (She no longer could feed herself.)

“What are you feeding her?” I asked.

“Tuna casserole,” was the answer.

“Mother never liked canned tuna,” I remarked. 

Then I listed, for the aide, foods that Mother liked.  A couple were on Mother’s tray and she ate these readily.  Apparently her taste buds and brain could still discern some of her food likes.

When I placed Mother in the nursing home, they asked for a list of her food likes and dislikes.  However, it may not always have been possible to include an individualized tray for her at each meal.

Even when you’re caring for your family member in your or their home, try to remember foods they’ve always liked.  Also, some of these foods may be ones they’ve mentioned from childhood. 

Also, try to remember if they have allergies to any foods.  This is good for you to know and for an assisted or nursing home to know.

What have you found about foods and Alzheimer’s patients?  Your suggestions and experiences could be very helpful for others.

When Mom Asks to Go Home

It’s heartrending when your parent or spouse says, “I want to go home,” when you visit them at the nursing home.  “Why don’t you take me home?”

This makes us feel guilty when we can’t do as they ask.  However, at a support group meeting, when my mom was in the nursing home, the family coordinator gave an explanation which made sense and stuck with me.

“What does your family member mean by home?” she asked. 

Then she went on to explain that it depended on which era of their life the patient is living in at that moment.  “Home” may mean the one they came from previous one to the nursing home stay.  It could mean where she lived as a child, her home when at college, where she lived after marriage or many more. 

Or, she added, it simply might mean her room at the nursing home.  She suggested you try putting your arm around the patient’s shoulders and walk with him/her to their room, settle them in their chair and chat or read.  This often solves the problem.

When we look at the Alzheimer’s person’s situation or request with our preconceived ideas, rather than trying to look at it through their mind, we simply become more upset.  Thus we upset the Alzheimer’s patient, too.